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Remembering Dave Draper

December 6, 2021 by Kathryn Alexander Leave a Comment

The Blonde Bomber

The strength and physical culture world suffered a huge loss last week, as Dave Draper passed away on November 30.

Dave Draper, the Blonde Bomber, is my number one inspiration in the world of physical culture. A legend, an icon, a writer. Dave is introspective, brilliant, and hits you with combination of realism and romanticism that makes you want to be born into the golden era of bodybuilding on Muscle Beach.

Dave’s Weekly Column, IronOnline Newsletter

Dave wrote a weekly column, the IronOnline Newsletter, for years, which I read religiously. He helps me re-realize the joy of lifting during times of burnout. His writing is deep and real, but also hilarious and inspiring.

When he stopped writing his weekly column, I cried. I wrote him a letter thanking him for all the wonderful thoughts he shared over the years.

A Season for Everything

I used to screenshot my favorite quotes from his columns. Today I went back through the screenshots and found my favorites.

“You’re in a Slump?” is one of the best columns Dave wrote. My favorite quote from this one is,

“And the Good Book tells us there is a season for everything, reaping and sowing, pumping and burning.”

Poignant and humorous, and worth the read.

Paint Big Pictures, Delightful and Bright

My favorite quote from The Blonde Bomber:

“Sometimes we forget why we go to the gym and the driving forces — the countless reasons for lifting heavy with meticulous form and in relentless pursuit — are left behind, under the bed with the dust balls, in the closet with the dirty laundry or at work under a stack of papers. Get in the habit of recalling who you are and why you’re here: to be good to your neighbor; to cultivate high morals; to be loyal to your country; to eat your protein and to train hard, with undying commitment to health, strength and long life.

Board your craft, brothers and sisters. The sky is your canvas; your wings are the brush. Paint big pictures, delightful and bright.”

To Laree, should you ever read this, thank you so much for all of your work on the IronOnline Newsletter, and for sharing so much of you and Dave with us over the years.

Your friend,
Kathryn

Getting Back in the Saddle… and Not Getting out of it

September 16, 2021 by Kathryn Alexander Leave a Comment

I took a little blog and newsletter hiatus back in May. I traveled two weekends back to back <GASP>, to a conference in South Carolina and a wedding in Arizona. It was busier than I’d been in a year and, as silly as it sounds, I was wiped out.

“Just this week,” I said as I skipped my writing work. “I’ll pick back up again next week.”

And here we are in September.

My Clients Are My Teachers

My clients have often been my biggest inspirations. I’ve seen parents who are absolutely slammed busy make time for their exercise. I’ve seen people who have had physical setbacks approach their training with the most can-do attitude imaginable. And impressively, I’ve seen people who have been consistent for decades.

My client Paul moved this summer from one house, to a temporary house for a month, and finally to his family’s new home. He trains with bands and dumbbells, and exercises outdoors. Did I mention that it is hot here in the Central Texas heat? Hot!

He kept his training consistent through the time, weather and schedule challenges. I am always interested to know how successful people find their way so I asked him how he maintained his consistency.

He reminded me that he has been doing some sort of exercise since he was 16. It has become part of his life to that point that he will make sure to include it. He said it feels off if he doesn’t exercise.

It’s What I Do

As someone who has had a love-hate relationship with exercise, I have experience elation, burnout, contentment and sheer fatigue surrounding my training. This is why I was so intrigued and impressed with Paul’s explanation.

No tortured lamenting about lack of time or energy or desire, just a matter of fact statement that it’s what he does.

And you know what? It works, when we just do what we know we need to do.

Hope you have a wonderful week, and find peace doing what you need to do too. I’m off to work on my writing!

Exercise as Meditation

February 22, 2021 by Kathryn Alexander Leave a Comment

It is thoroughly documented how exercise benefits the body; it builds muscle, strengthens the heart, improves the cardiovascular system, lays down new bone mass, etc. But did you know how much exercise improves our mental state? There is exhaustive research to demonstrate how exercise increases cognition, reduces stress, and decreases depression.

These mental benefits of exercise are some of my favorites.

Movement is a Skill

It is one of my least favorite stereotypes that people who exercise are meatheads. The truth is, it is a certain kind of intelligence to understand and feel how your body works. Some people are truly gifted in the ability to comprehend movement. They don’t know anatomy from textbooks, but engage their muscles beautifully. They haven’t studied muscular originations or insertions, but feel exactly how to move. This is truly a skill, like IQ or EQ.

If you weren’t born with it, you can develop it.

I find clients who have previously studied Pilates, dance or ballet are uniquely adept at picking up subtleties of movement. Even if they aren’t masters of movement, understanding that that there are so many small ways to move improves the ability to learn.

How to Use Exercise as Meditation

How can you apply this for your own benefit? You can slow down your movements and be very present. Sometimes people move through sessions on auto pilot. That is ok. There is a time and place for that. Other times though, if you slow down mentally and feel each movement, notice every angle and muscular engagement, you’ll get benefits beyond physical. When you’re learning a new skill or paying close attention as you practice a familiar skill, the awareness of the movement will push other thoughts aside.

You might, in order, focus on how to approach the lift mentally, how to approach the barbell physically, how to orient your body, and then proceed to lift. Close your eyes, visualize, belly breathe, approach the bar. Grip the bar, engage the lats, squeeze the toes into the ground, and GO. Glutes squeeze, back flexes, SUCCESS. Hips behind you, trunk still tight as bar meets the floor. Exhale.

Inhale, engage, repeat.

Movement is Freedom

Not only do you get yourself a little post-lift high, but you get yourself a chunk of time that squeeze out the life stresses of work, worry and stress. There’s no time to be thinking about taxes when you’ve got a heavy barbell on your back. No time to stress about external deadlines when you’re thinking about the angles of your movement.

It is my wish for you that you can find the freedom that exercise gives you mentally. Please let me know if I can help you get started or move out of a rut!

How to Avoid Weight Gain and Unhealthy Habits While Working From Home

February 9, 2021 by Kathryn Alexander Leave a Comment

The change from going to an office to working from home has significantly changed people’s lives, often in ways unexpected. One of those ways is that the decrease in activity as people are forced to work from home results in decrease in fitness and increase in weight gain.

We wouldn’t be shocked to see a decrease in fitness level when quitting an exercise program. But, the surprising part of the new work-from-home-economy is how our normal, pre-covid activities of daily living maintained a certain level of fitness, even if those activities didn’t seem difficult. Catching the stairs, hurrying across city blocks, and moving office supplies adds up, and many people are missing that in their new home-based routine.

Way to Add Movement Back In

To address this decrease in movement while working at home, you can take a few steps to add back in fitness. In order from easiest to most involved:

drink water throughout the day, so you are up and using the restroom frequently. All steps count, and the hydration is healthy too!
make a quick movement routine and stick to it on schedule (pushups, lunges, stretches every day at noon)
buy dumbbells and bands, and establish a more invovled lifting routine
join an online exercise team such as at TrainHeroic for the accountability
find a new activity activity such as walking, jogging, hiking or biking

Execution of The New Plan

Of course, there are more involved implications to this simple list. You’ll have to do a little bit of research and planning as you change your routine. You might have to research a new bike to buy! You might have to invest in some new exercise clothes. You have my full permission to do both of those 🙂 Try out new habits and activities and see which you enjoy enough to incorporate into your every day life.

If you add a little bit of creativity and curiosity, you can find a new way to add in healthy exercise!

On Being Strong

January 19, 2021 by Kathryn Alexander Leave a Comment

Very literally speaking, there’s no downside to being stronger. Not one. Either physically or emotionally stronger is a step in a positive direction.

Every time I meet someone new and we discuss potentially working together, I have them start at the beginning and tell me what exactly they want.

It is impossible, I believe, to separate what you want in the gym from what you want in life. Leaving the gym feeling better than you did when you walked in 61 minutes ago is a victory that sets you up for a more enjoyable day.

Starting your day with exercise that makes you feel strong and accomplished leads to a day executed with a sharp and decisive mind. Working at a goal over days and weeks and months, and finally reaching that goal leads to a feeling of pride that stays with you longer after you leave the weight room.

So, when I sit down with new clients and ask what they want, I am asking more than how much they want to bench press, or what size pants they want to wear.

Sidenote, I do love measurable and numeric goals, and I love physical goals. Life’s short; I want you to love your body and feel confident in your own skin!

But – I want to lead people to discover these intangibles in life, too. Confidence, happiness, strength. (I am aware that there are ways to quantify confidence, happiness, and strength, but there is no commonly used score. “Hey Bob, what’s your Happiness Index at today?”)

What Does It Mean to Be Strong?

Sometime in my undergraduate career, I had an assignment to write a mission statement. I wrote a series of statements, soooo creative.

The first one was something about being “strong for my family,” as we were in a challenging time. It was an unoriginal platitude, one my professor very kindly called me on. She asked, “What does it mean to be strong?” Basically, how would I know I am accomplishing that? What does it mean? Does it mean I don’t cry? Does it mean I don’t show emotion?

Does it mean I don’t stop and ask for help when my power steering goes out on the side of the road to New Orleans? Haha, sorry bout that one, Mom, but what a great story! Spoiler alert, I survived; the power steering belt did not.

How do you be strong in the non-quantitative way? It’s probably different for everyone. For me, I believe the way to be strong is to have goals, work at them, believe in yourself, and stay the course. That is to be strong.

Increase Your Exercise Capacity for an Easier Life

January 12, 2021 by Kathryn Alexander Leave a Comment

Exercise can make every day better by improving your physical capacity. If your body is trained to do more, then your activities of daily living will take less out of you. You’ll have more strength and energy left to do the things you want to do.

Consider how many steps you take per day. If you take 8,000 steps per day, then a long trip to the grocery store might take a large amount of those. In this case, some unplanned event might take a disproportional amount of energy.

This happens frequently in real life. Maybe a car breaks down and you have to walk half a mile, or a shopping trip with friends turns into more walking than you expected. Sometimes you meet up with friends downtown for dinner, and a change of restaurant plans necessitates an urban hike.

Let’s say you increase your steps from about 8,000 to 12,000 steps a day. Then, that walk around the mall, or finding the car after a football game, won’t be such a large percentage of your activity.

It is better to be active and ready for even the things you don’t plan for.

Put this in strength terms. Some people think they don’t need to be stronger or don’t see how increased strength will benefit their daily lives, but being stronger can benefit everybody.

Capt. Charles Moore, commander, Company C, 202nd Brigade Support Battalion, 4th Brigade, 2nd Infantry Division, performs the fireman's carry of a "casualty" during the nuclear, biological and chemical portion of the Expert Field Medical Badge traini… — Capt. Charles Moore, commander, Company C, 202nd Brigade Support Battalion, 4th Brigade, 2nd Infantry Division, performs the fireman’s carry of a “casualty” during the nuclear, biological and chemical portion of the Expert Field Medical Badge training and testing here Sept. 14. Photo by Spc. Leah R. Burton. This photo appeared on www.army.mil. By The U.S. Army At Flickr. Licensed under CC BY 2.0.

This is obvious for those with physically demanding jobs. For example, military, police, fire and medical personnel always have to be able to move people and things. If these people can only deadlift 200 pounds, they might not be adequately prepared for the job.

Two hundred and fifty pounds may sound like a lot. Consider, though, that many people in the general population weigh 200 pounds. If that tactical athlete must move a 160 pound teammate who is carrying 40 pounds of gear, or a 200 pound person in a fire, he is using 100% of his carrying capacity. That is too much – he or she will fatigue soon or fail the task. That doesn’t even include any gear he or she is personally carrying.

Now, if that person’s max deadlift is 350 pounds, which should be doable for most males in a first responder position, then 200 pounds is only 57% of his capacity. In this case, he should be able to move the 200 pound person much easier than if it were almost all his strength allowed.

Many people have elaborated more on this idea, and I certainly don’t claim it as an original thought. It needs to be said many more times so people understand how important strength is.

Everybody does this. But I think Mariusz Pudzianowski is probably the last person in the world who struggles with the weight of his groceries. — Everybody does this. But I think Mariusz Pudzianowski is probably the last person in the world who struggles with the weight of his groceries.

What if you aren’t a first responder; does this apply to you? Absolutely! Don’t you carry groceries, luggage or children?

If your overall work capacity and maximal strength levels are higher, then these things will not feel like a chore. They will be submaximal work, and will feel much easier. You’ll go through all your activities of daily living and you’ll be less tired at the end of the day because your body’s inherent ability is greater. This is the gift exercise gives you.